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Don’t Let Your Trials Define You

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Linking up with the Five Minute Friday group

Having a chronic illness can bring us down at times.

Sometimes, I  am so drained, I can barely move. There are days when I am not motivated to do anything. Today is one of those days. I am trying to write this in an effort to NOT be defined by my problems. I read once that we, Fibro Warriors, should NOT claim our pain. Don’t say “My Fibro”, but rather say “The Fibro” is  ______ . {fill in the blank}

Fibro Warriors definitely have pain.

More than most can know or understand. Some days our pain is average and we are able to get out and about. Other days, the pain is hellish and even getting out of bed takes too much energy.

But we are not defined by our pain.

We are amazing people living a life with pain. Many of us still do our best to keep a job. Those around us do not understand how draining the pain is but we go on silently working and fighting. We call fibromyalgia The Invisible Disease. No one can see it and there is no defining test to prove it.

The Bible tells us not to be surprised by our trials.

It doesn’t matter if you are a Fibro Warrior or a healthy young person with no aches and pains. We will all face adversity one time or another. Trials are going to come to each of us. I was a pastor’s wife for over 25 years until suddenly, we were no longer in full-time ministry. Struggling for identity, I wondered, “What/who am I now?” I had to learn that I am still a woman serving God.

Now I try to define myself by who I am: a child of God.

My Father is The God Who Sees Me. He’s my provider, My Strength, My Hope. In Him, I put my trust!

How about you?

How do you define yourself?

signed Mandy






6 thoughts on “Don’t Let Your Trials Define You

  1. Oh, Martha, you are so right. My husband struggles with that very thing. Though in our ministry we always welcomed retired pastors, let them peach whenever they liked, and definitely gleamed from their wisdom.

  2. i can so identify with the identity thing mandy. after over 40 years in vocational ministry, ron retired. in many ways, it was more difficult for him. in one church, the pastor was very intimidated by his presence and tho’t he was coming to take over the church. if you knew my husband, you would know that is about as opposite of his personality or desire as anyone could imagine. we were just there to worship and be part of the church. but b/c of this pastor’s attitude, ron had to bend over backwards to not do anything public. where we are now, it is a large church. i am free to do whatever i want to serve. ron is now limited by his health:( but it is difficult to find our place after all those years of ministry and experience. wise pastors make use of retired ones in their midst…for support, encouragement and use.

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